Monica Day on Sex, Sensuality & Sexual Revolution

Monica Day is an event organizer, sex and intimacy coach, "Sensual Instigator" and founder of the Sensual Life, among many great things. We caught up with her recently about the great event she's organizing on the west coast. Her thoughts on monogamy, love, sex and intimacy were really thought provoking.

More on what we talked about:

• What exactly is Monica's self-proclaimed, "sensual instigator" all about?
• How Monica turned her own divorce into something positive by using her experience to help others find their sexuality
• What is the Sensual Life? How Monica uses coaching, workshops, and art help people open up about their own sensuality and sexuality?
• What are the differences between intimacy/sexuality and sensuality/sexuality?
• What is sensuality for Monica? For her, it means a relationship with your physical sensations and awareness of how sensuality expresses sexuality
• She describes intimacy as "the new porn". What does that mean? Well, similarly to porn of yesteryear, intimacy is now more challenging to access. 
• Why honesty is one of the biggest issues facing couples today. Why, exactly? Whhen couples are fully honest, they admit their deepest desires--which in turn, increases intimacy and love.
• Why sexual technique is only 20% of amazing sex, while the other 80% are things like communication, intimacy and honesty
• Monica offers tips and tricks for an awesome relationship and sex! For example, don't make the other responsible for your sexual pleasure; re-establish your own personal relationship with your body. 
• Moreover, Monica recommends couples self-pleasure separately, and then come together verbally on what they found about their bodies. Why? It helps establish good communication of desires and improve each partner's relationship with their own body.
• Why verbally sharing desires and fantasies without the expectation or pressure to make them realities is a great idea for couples! Have a fantasy? Talk about it!
• Why creating art together or separately may be easier to share feelings rather than talking alone
• What's this about sexual revolution? Monica dishes on why she thinks the next sexual revolution is one where individuals feel more personal and cultural freedom surrounding their own sexuality, rather than being ashamed or hiding from it.

More about Monica

Monica Day is the founder of the Sensual Life, and an artist, writer, performer, workshop leader and personal coach. She specializes in creating safe spaces for people to explore, experience and express their sensuality. She is the creator, host and curator of the open mic series in New York City, Essensuality: An Evening of Erotic Expression, and a frequent reader/performer at Philadelphia’s Erotic Literary Salon.

She recently wrote, performed and produced the play, Song of the Sacred Whore, in the 2011 Philadelphia Fringe Festival. The courses, workshops and programs of The Sensual Life are Monica’s vehicle for empowering others to live a more feeling, more passionate, more fully-expressed sensual life.

In them, she shares the tools of authentic communication, the turn-on of sensual awareness, and the practices that arouse greater freedom, awakening, love and spiritual connection.

 Monica has spent the last 20 years as a writer, trainer and facilitator in areas ranging from personal growth and awareness, race and gender, class and power, sensuality and sexuality, communication skills, and relationship dynamics.

She splits her time between Philadelphia, where she is raising two beautiful daughters with her former spouse and co-parent, and New York City, where she is active in various communities that explore sensuality, intimacy, communication and other opportunities for relating to the self and others through this core part of our being. Follow her on Twitter @TheSensualLife and 'Like' The Sensual Life on Facebook. 

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